Men's porn use recovery program WOMEN'S PARTNER BETRAYAL PROGRAM Navigating a Loved One's Porn Use
 

 RESOURCES FOR PARENTS

 
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  • BUILD STRONG RELATIONSHIPS AND TRUST WITH YOUR CHILDREN. BE A SAFE SPACE FOR OPENNESS AND NON-JUDGMENTAL CONVERSATIONS. YOUR CHILDREN KNOW YOUR VALUES AND RULES, BUT DO THEY FEEL SAFE ASKING FOR HELP OR ASKING QUESTIONS THAT MAY CONFLICT WITH THOSE VALUES AND RULES? MAKE CLEAR THAT YOU ARE AVAILABLE FOR DISCUSSION AND WILL NOT JUDGE THEIR CONFESSIONS, QUESTIONS OR CONVERSATIONS PERTAINING TO PORNOGRAPHY.

  • TEACH THEM ABOUT THE HARMFUL EFFECTS OF PORNOGRAPHY AND EXPLAIN TO THEM THEIR SEXUALITY AND VALUE AT A YOUNG AGE. IT IS NEVER TOO EARLY TO START. PARENTS MAY BEGIN TEACHING CHILDREN ABOUT SEXUALITY AND PORNOGRAPHY BASED ON DEVELOPMENT AND UNDERSTANDING. MANY CHILDREN ARE EXPOSED TO PORNOGRAPHY AS YOUNG AS 3 OR 4 YEARS OLD. IT IS NEVER TOO SOON TO PREPARE YOUR CHILDREN.

    OFTEN PARENTS BEGIN DISCUSSING PORNOGRAPHY AND SEXUALITY IN THE TEENAGE YEARS WHEN YOUTH HAVE ALREADY HAD INTEREST AND HAVE LEARNED FROM OTHERS- BE THE FIRST POINT OF CONTACT ON THE MATTER, START YOUNG. AND NO, TALKING TO YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT SEXUALITY AND PORNOGRAPHY WILL NOT INCITE CURIOSITY PREMATURELY. YOUR CHILDREN ARE HUMAN BEINGS AND THUS EXPERIENCE SEXUALITY AND CURIOSITY FROM A YOUNG AGE. IT IS NOT A MATTER OF IF BUT WHEN THEY WILL ENCOUNTER PORNOGRAPHY AND THIS IS NOT IN YOUR CONTROL AS A PARENT. THE DIALOGUE AND CONTEXT IS WITHIN YOUR CONTROL. BEGIN DISCUSSIONS AS EARLY AS YOUR CHILDREN CAN RECEIVE AND EXPRESS LANGUAGE. THIS WILL PROTECT THEM NOT ONLY FROM PORNOGRAPHY BUT ALSO SEXUAL PREDATORS.

  • RESPOND WITH UNDERSTANDING. SEEK TO UNDERSTAND THEIR EXPERIENCE AND VALIDATE THEIR FEELINGS. YOUR CHILD MAY OR MAY NOT COME TO YOU AND TELL YOU. EITHER WAY, BRING UP THE TOPIC AND CONTINUE DISCUSSIONS IN AN OPEN NON-JUDGMENTAL WAY.

    KEEP HAVING CONVERSATIONS ABOUT THEIR EXPERIENCES AND UNDERSTANDING THEIR FEELINGS REGARDING THE EXPERIENCE. ENCOURAGE THEM TO BETTER UNDERSTAND THE ROLE OF SEXUALITY AND THE HARMS OF PORNOGRAPHY USE, WHILE ALLOWING THEM TO FEEL SAFE TO DISCUSS ANY PORNOGRAPHY USE.

  • WE CAN'T FORCE OUR CHILDREN TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR RECOVERY, BUT WE CAN CREATE AN OPEN AND NON-JUDGMENTAL ATMOSPHERE AND EDUCATE THEM ON THE PURPOSE OF SEXUALITY, PITFALLS OF SEXUALITY AND HOW TO MANAGE THEIR SEXUALITY. WE CAN SET BOUNDARIES IN OUR HOMES AND MAKE RULES THAT WILL BETTER PROTECT THEM AND FOSTER LEARNING AND UNDERSTANDING WHILE THEY ARE STILL IN YOUR CARE.

  • UNFORTUNATELY, CHILDREN ARE OFTEN UNINTENTIONALLY EXPOSED TO PORNOGRAPHY AND THESE OCCURRENCES CAN AROUSE SEXUAL FEELINGS AND SHAME THAT MAY LEAD THE CHILD TO SEEK OUT MORE EXPERIENCES WITH PORNOGRAPHY. TALK ABOUT THE TRAUMA EXPERIENCED FROM VIEWING PORNOGRAPHY, MAKE A PLAN AND BE UNDERSTANDING OF THEIR JOURNEY TO RECOVERING FROM EXPOSURE AND RE-EXPOSURE.

  • INTEREST IN PORNOGRAPHY VARIES FROM CHILD TO CHILD BUT IT OFTEN STEMS FROM CURIOSITY OR NATURAL PLEASURE EXPERIENCED FROM VIEWING IT. SOMETIMES THERE ARE UNDERLYING ISSUES SUCH AS PEER PRESSURE BUT OFTEN CHILDREN ARE SEEKING FOR INFORMATION TO PROCESS ALL THE SEXUALIZATION THAT THEY ARE EXPOSED TO ON A DAILY BASIS ON TELEVISION, ADVERTISEMENTS, ETC. CHILDREN ARE SEXUAL AND CURIOUS JUST LIKE ADULTS AND NEED TO BE INFORMED AND HAVE A SAFE PLACE TO ASK QUESTIONS AND HAVE DISCUSSIONS AS THEY LEARN TO NAVIGATE THEIR EMOTIONS AND SEXUALITY.

  • The steadfast institute will be a launching a comprehensive parent’s program in 2023! In the mean time we offer one on one coaching in order to give you the personalized help and assistance you need to approach the topic of porn correctly with your children. the best coach to a child is always their parent!